Sergei Malkin clinical psychologist
Sergei Malkin clinical psychologist

Intimacy and Boundaries

Intimacy and Boundaries

Do you struggle to set boundaries & have intimacy problems in relationships?

When it comes to relationships, everybody longs for a deep connection. We long for intimacy with somebody. But often, some of us avoid these relationships or connections altogether or sabotage them. We may well long for intimacy, yet we may find it challenging to connect and commit. Why? It might be due to our specific emotional reactions being strong, unexplainable, and overwhelming. It might be due to deeply hidden beliefs about relationships. It might be due to unaware defense mechanisms that we developed long ago in childhood or even a sign of trauma.

These physical intimacy issues mean it’s challenging to let people into your life, and every time you try to have a relationship, you fear to end up disappointed. You might want to give up and even feel like you’re better off alone.

Struggling to set boundaries & have intimacy problems in your relationships? Contact me here now to discuss how I deal with intimacy issues.

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Carl Gustav Jung, Modern Man in Search of a Soul (1933)
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Online Therapy

Are you shy? Do you feel safer and more comfortable in your own space? Do you suffer from panic attacks or social phobia? Or do you just simply not have enough time? Maybe Online Therapy/Online Counseling is an option for you to start getting help.

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Do you sometimes notice yourself changing when in groups, meetings, big companies? What effect does a group have on you? What place and what role do you tend to take? Groups are a place for an experiment. A place to learn and understand your patterns of insecurities, compulsion, resistance, and blocks. Come to learn.

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Thematic seminars

Workshops and seminars offer similar learning spaces, but they’re bigger, more intense, and more focused. Come to participate in workshops and seminars.

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Systemic Constellation

Some of our hang-ups we can easily understand, but we still get stuck there. They resist our willful change. It might seem that these have nothing to do with our past or our origins. Well, do they? Come and explore how Systemic constellation can enhance your learning and therapeutic progress.

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Workplace challenges

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Struggles are a part of life – annoying, unnerving, and frustrating. Yet they also provide opportunities for us to grow if you focus on the right target, you can learn and thrive. Come to explore your challenge.

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Leadership development

You might have a higher position in management, manage teams, oversee big budgets, and are vested with power and responsibilities. Yet you might need guidance and support more than those who work under you. Why? Come to expand your leaderships skills.

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Trauma recovery

Trauma and its effects

Maybe you thought you were over your traumatic experiences, but now, all of a sudden, it’s dominating your life again. Maybe you feel it catches up with you in your relationships. Or memories, you wish you’d have forgotten, start to flash back into your mind. Come to heal.

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Trauma – Addictive behavior

Every time you try to stop, you fail. This makes you feel even worse. You feel like a failure. Like you are a mess… and then relapse again. Why not take another path. Come to understand your addiction and discover its hidden story. You need to understand yourself and maybe discover parts of yourself, forgotten or suppressed…

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Trauma, self-worth and empowerment

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Trauma, burnout and stress

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Trauma, illness and malaise

Traumatic experiences in the past can compromise our boundaries…  it may make us more prone to react to changes in our body with anxiety, distress, and fear. This makes us more susceptible to illness. What can you do?

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Couples Therapy

Forging mutual understanding and commitment

Is there constant bickering or misunderstanding in your relationship? You might be tired of it. You long for ease, intimacy and connection between the two of you. Come to explore how you can find each other again and restore your loving bond. Come to reconnect.

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Intimacy and connection

Have you been drifting apart from your partner recently? Maybe you feel it’s difficult to reach him/her and you feel completely closed off from each other. Or maybe you feel anxious, uneasy, suffocated, frustrated, or confused when together. What can you  do to restore intimate connection and to make your bond more satisfying and meaningful? Come to explore.

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Sexuality and Fulfillment

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Learn more

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You previously led a vibrant lifestyle with lots going on. But suddenly, you feel drained, physically exhausted, and with feelings of confusion, frustration, or dissatisfaction. Come and find out what it means, how to learn from it, and how to recharge?

Learn more

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You struggle in friendships and romance. Something goes wrong, but you can’t put your finger on it. Sometimes you feel that people constantly let you down. You end up fighting, resenting or just giving up. … Come to understand your patterns and learn to strengthen your boundaries and cultivate healthy intimate connections.

Learn more

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